tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33211583.post5940096274847011585..comments2024-02-10T08:13:07.736+00:00Comments on Round-The-World Barstool Blues: Top Five Passion-killersFrooghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06738623732860210935noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33211583.post-38498883051628080112011-07-02T11:12:01.028+00:002011-07-02T11:12:01.028+00:00Interesting observation, John. You've obviousl...Interesting observation, John. You've obviously looked into the background to the misguided dieting more closely than me.<br /><br />Many Chinese girls, I'm afraid, strike as painfully malnourished - both physically and culturally.Frooghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06738623732860210935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33211583.post-29562264276680535902011-06-30T14:32:20.851+00:002011-06-30T14:32:20.851+00:00Before someone (probably a Chinese girl) leaps to ...Before someone (probably a Chinese girl) leaps to the defence of Chinese girls everywhere by pointing out that in writing this article you've made a list of your own criteria, ;-) I'll explain why I think most Chinese girls look like children:<br />From talking to a few of them on QQ I've found that they stick to poor dietary plans based on formulas to calculate {what they deem to be} adequate body weights. These formula, some girls may claim are based on "ancient Chinese wisdom" are actually dated European models which have been refined and improved over the years. You can read more about this here- http://www.halls.md/ideal-weight/devine.htm . Whatever the reason for these formulae becoming popular amongst Chinese females is they do seem to have become entrenched in their psyche. Actually, as you can read, the formulae are quoted on many poor diet websites so it's possible that information from these and other poor sources (the old formulae give dangerous figures for short people) have been spread around by word of mouth and never questioned or checked.<br />These adequate weight plans suitable only for children coupled with being raised on a mostly plant based diet (which I imagine makes you bored of eating rather than being healthy) I would think explains why they look as they do.<br />It's only the girls from richer families from certain parts of China (where girls are said to be particularly beautiful) that I would consider look normal for their ages because I expect they eat better and think more for themselves.Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15692328535476075420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33211583.post-66777671315789016102010-04-26T10:00:44.815+00:002010-04-26T10:00:44.815+00:00Well, I think you paint a rather extreme picture t...Well, I think you paint a rather extreme picture there, pinb. I've come across plenty of young Chinese professional women, married to or living with Chinese boyfriends, who still have an indepedent social life, for example.<br /><br />The sorts of criticism you make I've heard most often from foreign women who've tried dating or marrying Chinese men. In my experience, Chinese women seldom complain that much about such behaviours, and don't generally invoke it as their rationale for regarding foreign men as 'superior'.Frooghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06738623732860210935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33211583.post-52705894214269079152010-04-25T14:13:52.178+00:002010-04-25T14:13:52.178+00:00I'm a foreigner in Beijing who has a few Chin...I'm a foreigner in Beijing who has a few Chinese women friends who prefer to date foreign men not for any other reason than: Chinese men generally treat their girlfriends like crap. <br /><br />The boyfriend is often times more insecure about his girlfriend's appearance than she is. He will require her to diet even when she is underweight and tell her what she should and shouldn't wear. <br /><br />She is not allowed out at night with other friends if the boyfriend is not around, yet the boy himself is allowed to hang out all night with his buddies drinking and going to various <i>ge ting</i> (KTV with lady "friends" you can hire).<br /><br />These are just 2 examples, but the relationships that I've heard about are so one-sided and unhealthy I don't blame women for not wanting to date Chinese men.<br /> <br />Of course this is a generalization and not all Chinese men are like this, but many of them are still fairly sexist and it's enough to put me off them as well. (Well this... and the generalization that they have small penises and are lousy lovers!)pinbnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33211583.post-9577917712515769332010-04-24T03:18:50.021+00:002010-04-24T03:18:50.021+00:00There is amongst foreigners here something of a st...There is amongst foreigners here something of a stereotype of Chinese womanhood as being nothing but a mob of "passport hunters". I would like to think that that's an unfair over-generalization, but... stereotypes arise for a reason.<br /><br />I first touched on this topic nearly two-and-a-half years ago, in <a href="http://froogville.blogspot.com/2007/11/chinese-people-love-me-7_30.html" rel="nofollow">the post</a> that I linked to near the end here. I elaborated my feelings further in <a href="http://froogville.blogspot.com/2007/11/chinese-people-love-me-7_30.html?showComment=1196580157052#c234625412381893498" rel="nofollow">this long comment</a>, where I lamented that:<br /><b>"The real problem is that there are lots of Chinese girls who are extremely smart and savvy and worldly and independent, and would probably make great girlfriends - but it does become difficult to distinguish these from the vast majority of man-chasing airheads, and I've rather given up trying.<br /><br />Also, I fear, even with these smarter ones, there is often a lack of self-awareness or self-analysis about why they're attracted to you - something that I find offputting. It does seem that it's often simply a fascination with 'the other', with racial difference. Nothing wrong with that per se - except that it's so generic, so undiscriminating. I want a girl to like me for a reason that's about me, not something that would apply equally well to 50,000 other guys in this city."</b><br /><br />And I concluded:<br /><b>"I am an overweight, balding, middle-aged man who drinks too much and has a sour sense of humour. If you want to wheedle your way into my affections, don't tell me how handsome I am. Don't tell me how glamorously <i>foreign</i> I look. Tell me you understand my jokes."</b>Frooghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06738623732860210935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33211583.post-14893598050440430762010-04-23T16:57:10.866+00:002010-04-23T16:57:10.866+00:00I love the exceptions - the more to be treasured f...I love the exceptions - the more to be treasured for being so comparatively rare.<br /><br />Of course, I approached this as a 'Chinese' phenomenon, but in fact I encounter the same off-putting qualities in ladies of every nationality. It's just that, unfortunately, these things seem to be much more prevalent in China - at times, it seems, <i>almost</i> ubiquitous.Frooghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06738623732860210935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33211583.post-55928460468460234422010-04-23T14:54:19.754+00:002010-04-23T14:54:19.754+00:00This list makes me feel lucky that I found my wife...This list makes me feel lucky that I found my wife in China. She does occasionally drink, she loves to eat (and try new foods), hates Hello Kitty, and really wasn't interested in finding a foreign boyfriend when I met her. We don't share much in the way of music though.Matthewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13661968297027198340noreply@blogger.com